Difference Between Life & Living

Life is to reproduce.

Living is creating values that make life (or reproduction) more successful and less obvious.

Please let me know if you have a better answer.

Nyoshul Khenpo 的人生五章

１.我走上街，

人行道上有一个深洞，

我掉了进去。

我迷失了……我绝望了。

这不是我的错，

费了好大的劲才爬出来。

２.我走上同一条街。

人行道上有一个深洞，

我假装没看到，

还是掉了进去。

我不能相信我居然会掉在同样的地方。

但这不是我的错。

还是花了很长的时间才爬出来。

３.我走上同一条街。

人行道上有一个深洞，

我看到它在那儿，

但还是掉了进去……

这是一种习气。

我的眼睛张开着，

我知道我在那儿。

这是我的错。

我立刻爬了出来。

４.我走上同一条街，

人行道上有一个深洞，

我绕道而过。

５.我走上另一条街。

Just ask for it.

Why waste your life working for others so that their target can be achieved, while you can just go out, ask for a chance to do whatever you like and work to your goal?

Failure

Failure is a kind hand that tries to stop you from doing the wrong thing, while forcing you onto the right track to your destiny.

--By Napoleon Hill--

"The Blind Side"

Watch this movie and realize how lucky you actually are.

Then start helping others who might have a better future.

自信与自卑

如果生命只剩下一粒柠檬，自卑的人会说，我垮了，我一点机会都没有了，然后他就会开始诅咒这个世界，让自己沉浸在可怜之中。自信的人会说，我要怎样改善我的情况呢？

有一个电车车长的女儿叫凯丝•达莉。她从小喜欢唱歌，并且梦想当一名歌唱演员。但她的牙齿长得很不好看，一次她在新泽西州的一家夜总会里演出时，她总想把上唇拉下来盖住丑陋的牙齿，结果洋相百出。演完之后，她就伤心地哭了。

后来回忆说，正当我哭得最伤心的时候，台下一位老人对我说；孩子，你很有天分，坦率地讲，我一直在注意你的表演，我知道你想掩饰什么，你想掩饰的是你的牙齿。难道长了这样的牙齿一定就丑陋不堪吗?听着，孩子，观众欣赏的是你的歌声，而不是你的牙齿，他们需要的是真实。张开你的嘴吧，孩子，观众看到连你都不在乎的话，他们就会对你产生好感的。再说了，孩子，说不定那些你想遮掩起来的牙齿还会给你带来好运呢。

凯丝•达莉接受了老人的忠告，不再去注意牙齿。从那时开始，她只想着她的观众，她张大嘴巴，热情而高兴地唱着，最后她成了电影界和广播界的一流明星。

自信的人与自卑的人区别于：自信者充满自信、洋溢着活力；而自卑的人，即使腰缠万贯、富甲一方内心也总是灰暗而脆弱的。

自信的人与自卑的人却有一个共同点，就是人类与生俱来的自卑感。世界上没有一个人是完美的，人人都会为自己的短处感到自卑。

也就是说，自信的人只不过是以自己的长处弥补自己的短处，就此战胜了自己心中的自卑感罢了。

The Agreement

What if we really made an agreement with god that we borrow his power to create whatever we love, and not trying whatever it takes to do whatever we love to, are breaking the agreement? Which mean you should go back to god and hand back his power.

In this way, we will know how hard things are created and how easy it can be destroyed.

The consequence is bad things will happen. There will be misuse of his power.

Yet we made the agreement.

Synonym for Dictator

A friend of mine left me an unanswered question:

Who master mind your life and put you in it and watch you every step and if you do a tiny mistake you are in deep trouble. He is going to record it and you will pay for it-IN HELL!!!

A Malaysians' Dream

There is a dream deep in all Malaysian heart. The dream, before Merdeka (independence), is once very enthusiastic that everyone sees it coming true until certain party threaten the public that if we live equally as Malaysian, a certain race is going to demolish. Malaysian is so frighten that this propaganda is true that we give up our dream.

As time goes by, the dream becomes so fragile that Malaysian can only whisper it. Anything more than that will bring jail, threat, death. Everyone is so afraid to even whisper it. Then along came a motherly-like advertisement and film director. She puts the Malaysian dream on every television and cinema in Malaysia, despite the threat, unrecognisable, and hatred. Her works show Malaysians that our dream, which is almost drown in the deepest corner of our heart, is very much alive. Love stories of our next generation will be destroy and brought to a sad ending if we drown our dream, our deepest need.

Now, she is gone. To me, she had gone too soon. The good news is the Malaysian dream has started to bloom a little here and there. Imagine Malaysians regardless the colour of our skin, share our cultures, thought, understand each festivals, criticize people base on individual (not race), and a country that do not divide her prosperity because it is always big enough for all. This is the Malaysian dream, and the late Yasmin Ahmad reminded us with her work. I will remember her, as Mother of Malaysia.

(Her movie "Talentime" (right) is my favourite that I think all Malaysian should watch. There is where all our talent is. And the song "I Go" by Pete Teo is heart-brokening.)

Forecast Result for Teoh’s Death

The Magistrate:

He fell down. Die of serious head injury. He is lucky that he did not burst his head. There was a case where someone jumped down from 5th floor and his brain is all over with his limps twisted. Teoh did not. He is real lucky to have nothing broken, accept head injury that caused death.

The Royal Commission:

Yes, the MACC violate human rights. We have sent warning letter to them.

The Royal Police:

He dealt with the gangsters before. The gangsters went into the building of MACC and threw him down. We will be searching for the responsible gangsters.

--Case Close--

A Sad Joke

Q: Why the Malaysian Anti-Corruption Commission (MACC) can't solve any case?

A: Because their witnesses will some how fall out from the window of the 14th floor.

Q: How many nice young man, with bright future, has parents, wife, baby, family, friends, etc like him have to die before we, Malaysian, realize that we need a change, seriously? How hard is it to lift ourselves up for a change?

A: When someone in our family being thrown down from the window at 14th floor by the authority.

Heaven or Hell?

When you were in a coma, god gives you a chance to choose whether you want to be in heaven or hell when your time comes.

God took you to hell. You found out that hell is helluva place where people having serious competition just to stay comfortable, forcing others to struggle so that they don’t have to, work hard and kill for food, mix with a group of people so that you got protected, live under a law so that you are safe, forced to cheat, sacrifice, drilled yourself to be more competitive, have fun yourself and ignore others, stay incomplete, work like a dog, fall in love and get hurt, always hungry for something, have limited time before you get into more torture, etc.

Then god brings you to heaven to find out an empty space with unlimited time and nothing to do, probably forever. You don’t get hungry, no emotional event, entertainment, food, nothing.

You ask god why there are only a few people in heaven, while hell is so crowded. God said he loves everyone and give everyone a choice regardless of what they did in life. But most of them chose hell.

“Why?” you asked.

“Because there is no hope in heaven, you’ll probably stuck there forever. While in hell, there are plenty of hopes in almost everything. It gives them a purpose, and thus making it interesting.”

Heaven or hell, which will you choose?

The Departures

In the movie The Departures, there is a scene that reminds me of what life is.

In a river where the stream is strong, there are fish that tries to swim against it. Meanwhile, there are fish that died trying to swim against the stream flow pass. All fish died trying to swim against the stream but they still do it.

Isn’t this sad? How far different is it from our life?

Either we swim against the stream to see how far we can reach in life; or we let the stream take us. We all die at the end. What is the difference?

We work hard so that we can die rich? Or we do nothing and die poor? Is there any different in the end? The only different is choice. A or B. There are no right and wrong.

The Weather Man

I’ve just watch, The Weather Man, Starring Nicholas Cage and Michael Caine. Here is something I learned and I wish to share:

1. To get anything in value, you have to scarifice.

2. Do you know that the hard thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing?

3. Nothing that has meaning is easy. Easy doesn’t enter into grown up life.

4. This shit life, we must chuck something. We must chuck them, in this shit life.

Life doesn’t always appear as we wished. Maybe we should throw that life we imagine away.

Self, Feelings and Emotions

Have you ever wonder how many self inside you? You probably think I am mad asking this question. I found this answer after finding where is my heart actually locate. Yes, heart. Not that heart in my chest but that heart that stores all my feeling.

1. First and foremost, our body, which allowed us to be seen like a human in the world. This self is lead by our physical pumping heart. This is our basic self, our being.

2. You probably realize we remember things. But you do not realize that it is independent. You can’t just remember something or forget something. You have to convince someone inside you to store it or keep it deep inside. That is our second self at work.

3. Do you realize that whatever decision we want to make, there will be an argument in our head. Some people call them little voices or whisper. Two of them always disagree and debate based on information from our 2nd self.

4. Whatever the argument going on inside, both self won’t come out with a solution. They need another self to solve it, to make a decision. This is our fifth self. The real you working.

5. Everyone imagine things. In fact, whatever we do, we have to be clear in our mind what we are doing before we really do it. This including our self. We imagine our ideal self before we show to others. The ideal self is the sixth self.

6. The last self is the one people have in mind. In other words, impression. You might try very hard to project your ideal self to the world. But that impression of you in each and everyone’s mind will not be the one you have in mind. They might be close. But it is just not the same.

This is my answer. There are 7 of every person.

Where do we store our feelings? We did not store them. We only store the experience in our memory (2nd self above). It is our debaters (3rd and 4th self) that create the emotion after their debate. This is the reason why our emotions or feelings are different when we have the same experience. When the debaters have the same debate, we have the same feelings; when the facts in the debates are different, we have new feelings.

Freedom!

Freedom! Freedom! Freedom! Freedom here, freedom there... Everybody wants freedom. What is freedom? How much freedom do we actually have?

Once, a person told me sometimes he does what he likes, but most of the time he does what he has to.

Yes, we spend most of our time working for our comfortable living, delicious meal, not knowing that we spend our life on working. Is it worth the sacrifice?

Work like a dog for 10 hours a day, sleep for 5 hours, and 9 hours enjoy. Multiply it by 80 years and we have only 30 years enjoying. Not to mention the un-quality times when you are blur and not having enough sleep or drunk.

What do you do on your free time? Charity? Part-time? Movies? Chat with friends? Or get drunk? To be honest, these are roughly how we spend our life. What is the purpose (of life)? To reproduce? So that you bring in your children to find answers that you couldn’t find? Did they ask for it? Is it fair for them?

Smart people will say we do things to enjoy life. But for what? Since we are here, we should enjoy? Then why spend most of your time working since you do not enjoy it? I understand that if you do not work like hell, your life would not be as enjoyable. But you spend most of your time working and you said you are enjoying life. Funny...

How much freedom do we have? We can’t just go out and kill that person you hate because the society will not agree with you and will put you in jail for that, even though that person is a serial killer.

You can’t whack a person when you feel like, you can’t eat whatever you want’ you can’t have sex with anyone, you can’t choose your parents, you can’t just do whatever you like. There are rules all around. Just how much freedom do we have?

仇人 與 恩人

大學剛畢業的時候，某電視公司請我去主持個特別節目， 那節目的導播看我文章不錯，又要我兼編劇。 可是當節目做完，領酬勞的時候， 導播不但不給我編劇費， 還扣我一半的主持費。

他把收據交給我說： 『你簽收一千六，但我只能給你八百，因為節目透支了。』

當時沒吭聲，照簽了，心想 【君子報仇，十年不晚。】 後來那導播又找我，我還 【照樣】幫他做了幾次。

後一次，他沒扣我錢，變得對我很客氣， 因為那時我被電視公司的新聞部看上， 一下子成為了電視記者兼新聞主播。

們後來常在公司遇到，他每次笑得都有點尷尬。 我曾經想去告他一狀，可是正如高中那位同學所說， 沒有他我能有今天嗎？

果我當初不忍下一口氣，又能繼續獲得主持的機會嗎？ 機會是他給的，他是我的貴人，他已經知錯，我何必去報復呢？

Changing Religions

I always hate people who ask others to change religion.

The reason is simple, a person believes what he/she supposed to and the result is what he/she is today. If you want this person to change religion, it is almost the same as “if you believe in what I believe, your future would be better than now”, which also means he/she is a loser now when compare to you.

Hello, do you have a crystal ball? I know fortune tellers have. Why doesn’t everyone believe in them? At least they tell us our future, not giving us illusions like god love us, and we suffer in life because god knows why…

Why don’t just leave them alone? They’ll find something to believe in which might be more suitable for them.  

Religious people are spiritual people. They are not sales person who run around telling people to buy a product which will “make their life better”.

Plus, I thought religions strongly against war? Why war amongst other religions? Aren’t you contradict with your believe when you ask others to join you?

Time or Money?

People always says that time is money. This has cause many people to work hard for money.

Is time really equals to money?

If you think it is, I disagree with you.

I think time is all we have in life. How long our life is depends on how much time we have.

Money is something people sacrifice their time to earn. Yes, it is important. It is one of the most important element that determines how we can spend the time we have left.

If you come into a situation to choose between time and money, which will you choose?

Many will choose money because it is a way to secure the next meal.

But I had chose time. Hoping the thing I do in this time I earned will make my life more meaningful and happier in the long run.

Am I nuts?

Patience & Courage

"Knowledge need patience, action need courage. If you have a combination of both, you can be really successful."

-Donald J. Trump-

I think this is so true.

Arrogant people think they are the best and try to suppress others are people who lack patience. They have the courage to take action to show off and suppress others. But they lack the knowledge to maintain their success.

Most intellectuals do not get far in life because they do not have the courage to take responsible on their failure. They are so afraid of failure that they do not take any action.